I’ve spent a pretty significant chunk of my 20’s dating in Los Angeles. I’ve been on quite a few dates. Were they all rotten? No; on the contrary, some of them were actually fun. Were all the men lousy? Unfortunately, I have to say that the lousy men definitely outnumber the men who had real relationship potential. Just to clarify (as I’m sure we all have different ideas of what is considered lousy), I would define a lousy man as a man who is not honest about his intentions. He plays games excessively, and feels entitles to have his cake and eat it, too (see: enjoying the physical benefits of a relationship without having any of the responsibility). Well, get a different cake next time.
I was a late bloomer, as far as dating was concerned. I had the same boyfriend all through high school and college, and when we broke up after my move to Los Angeles, I found myself thrown into a part of male-female culture that I knew nothing about. Since being rudely spit out onto the dating scene, I’ve seen some behaviors that are just weird, as well as some that are downright appalling. This brings me to one simple conclusion: dating is for the birds, especially when you’re a 27-year-old woman living in LA.
I obviously don’t really believe that, as I do hope to have a loving and committed relationship someday with a man that will meet my needs. I would, however, like to share some of my interesting (and creepy) experiences as I’m sure many of you have had them as well. And as a therapist, I frequently spend a large portion of my day trying to figure out what makes people tick, so I feel that this blog will help me gain some insight from other people into the strange behavior associated with these weird human mating dances. So enjoy!
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